10 Rules for a Great Relationship
Today: Rule 2 – Staying connected is more important than being right
1. Accept and embrace your partner’s differences
2. Staying connected is more important than being right
3. You get out of it what you put into it
4. Regularly get out of your daily routine
5. Convey your partner’s importance to him or her
6. Fight fairly
7. Make the relationship a priority
8. Savor every day
9. Talk about your future together
10. Believe in the “fairy tale” aspects of love
“I’d rather be right than happy.” Does this statement make any sense to you? Although unspoken, many of us live these words from time-to-time in our relationships. The n
eed for vindication and self-righteousness sometimes overshadows the need to nurture and grow our most personal and intimate relationships.
Whether it is self-pride, ego, or selfishness, at times we may dig in our heels and refuse to reach out and compromise, and connect, with our partners over disagreements or misunderstandings. A common theme in successful relationships is the ability to give of yourself and expect nothing in return (please see today’s Daily Inspiration in the top-right column of this webpage).
In the context of today’s rule, this means you have the responsibility to let go of any self-centered thoughts or actions that may be damaging your relationship. Yes, it’s hard to just let something go, especially if you feel very passionate about it. But the question is what it is that you have the most passion for any way - your idea or point-of-view or your relationship?
An effective technique to “let something go,” but won’t compromise your core beliefs is to make the following statement when faced with this delimina:
“I acknowledge your position. This is my position.”
Please note the word “and” does not separate these two statements. By adding an “and” your partner may feel as though you are dismissing their stance. Just simply state you are fully aware of where they stand. Next, state you have a differing position, and then, just move forward to focus on the relationship.
Next: You get out of it what you put into it
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